Wednesday, March 21, 2007
A Day at the Park!!
Today Wayne took the boys to the park. They had a marvelous time! He took a couple of baseball gloves (mitts) and he and Kylen (our 8 year old) threw the ball back and forth. He also tossed the ball to Sasha, who was so enthralled with kicking and chasing the ball. I know Wayne had a dream come true today.....as he has never had a son, only daughters ( which he has truly adored both of them), but I know he had an unfulfilled dream come true playing with his sons today. The boys loved being outside too!! Today is really the first day that the older boy has played with his younger brother (he will be 28 months tomorrow). I guess that he has not been around children younger than age 6 and that he has not seen his brother except for a couple of brief times since the brother was 2 months old, he really has not known how to play with him. It looks as if this is going to change, and they will be interacting more together now that they are getting "settled in".
My work schedule has been grueling since returning home. I have had to make up for all that time I had off so Wayne has been "Mr. Mom". In the past 7 days, I have had to work 6 shifts...all of them at least 12 hours, some have been 13 hours long. In addition, I came home coughing with the "Siberian Croup". I have been so tired and exhausted. The boys have been asleep by the time I get home, and I have seen them only for a few minutes in the morning before I dash off to the hospital. This morning, Sasha would not look me in the eye. He kept avoiding direct eye contact with me......not a good thing, but unfortunately, my schedule could not be helped. Wayne has done a fantastic job with the boys, and for now, we are trying to alternate our work schedules. He goes back to work tomorrow, and I am home with them for a few days. I hope we can resume our bonding. I am guessing they had so many different caregivers that they have learned to keep their distance emotionally as a protective mechanism. In the long run, love and persistance will pay off, (we hope).
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That is great that the boys and your dh are having so much fun in the sports arena:) Keep up the good work with attachment and that is great you and your dh will be working opposite shifts so the boys will be with one of you,that's what dh and I do too. I am an rn working 12's only 3, not nearly as many as you and sometimes my oldest will not give me eye conttact when I get home from work, I hold her , rock her tell her I love and miss her she sometimes resist it for a while but then it's hugs and kisses. This took some time we have been home 3 months and in the last couple of weeks I notice great changes in the girls:) God Bless your precious family you will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Attachment is an ebb and flow thing, especially in the beginning. Some days are terrific with lots of eye contact, hugs and interaction; other days not so smooth. Consistency and time will make all the difference in the world. You both are doing a great job with the boys!!!
You'll get the hang of it! :) You just have to get used to the new schedule. I know this blog is about adoption, but if you don't mind, can you share some info about yourself (Schooling, residency, etc). I'm just curious since I'm a few years behind you. :) If not, feel free to email me privately. (ChristenEllis@gmail.com)
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